RELATIONSHIP: Why You Should Never Beg Anyone To Stay

I know it sounds harsh, but begging is degrading. An apology, telling him how you feel, or offering to change a bad habit should be enough if a person truly wants to stay. If it’s not, accept that the relationship is over. The moment you have to beg, it’s already over anyway.

1. HE’LL NEVER RESPECT YOU.

Standing up for yourself earns you respect. Begging and pleading kills respect. Sure, he might stay, but he’ll never show you any respect. Is that truly someone you want in your life?




2. HE’LL TAKE YOU FOR GRANTED.

Once he knows you’re that desperate to keep him in your life, he’ll take and take, but never give. You’ll never be his equal and you’ll soon be miserable and wish he’d just leave. You never deserve to be taken for granted.

3. IF YOU HAVE TO BEG, HE’S NOT WORTH IT.

Anyone who gives a damn about you won’t make you beg. In fact, he’ll ask you to stop. When you feel like begging is your only option, just walk away. No one is worth begging for.

4. IF HE LOVED YOU, HE’D STAY ANYWAY.

If he truly loved you, he’d talk to you and you would both figure out what’s wrong and how to fix it. You wouldn’t need to beg. You might have to give him space temporarily, but you’d work through things together.

5. IT MAKES YOU FEEL WEAK.

Caring about someone shouldn’t make you feel weak. It should make you feel stronger, though it probably stresses you out sometimes. Begging strips away your strength and leaves you bare and weak. In the end, you’re still going to get hurt.


6. YOU’LL REGRET IT.

The person who stays isn’t someone you want to be with. You might think so now, but he’s only staying because he thinks they can control you. You’ll soon come to regret begging him to stay. In fact, you’ll be the one walking out.



7. YOU’RE OK ON YOUR OWN.

It’s terrifying to have someone you love leave you, but it’s OK. You might suddenly be single or feel alone after your best friend leaves, but it’s not the end of the world. You’re perfectly fine being on your own, so embrace it and don’t beg for someone who’s not worth your time.


8. HE’LL EXPECT YOU TO DO IT EVERY TIME.

Do it once and he’ll expect you to do it every time something goes a little wrong. Were you 15 minutes late? He’ll threaten to leave just to watch you beg him to stay. Don’t let someone use and degrade you like that.


9. IT EATS AWAY AT YOUR CONFIDENCE.

Begging has a way of stripping away your confidence and making you question yourself. You’re a strong, beautiful woman. Stay confident and true to yourself. You’ll be fine without him in your life. If you have to lose who you are for him to stay, he’s not worth it.


10. IT’S BETTER TO JUST TALK IT OUT.

It’s easy to make rash decisions during a fight. That’s why you call him and talk to them the next day. It’s OK to make that first move. Offer to talk to each other like adults and try to work through your issues. If that doesn’t work, accept that it’s over.


11. SOMETIMES IT’S BEST TO LET HIM LEAVE.

It’s the last thing you might want right now, but begging isn’t going to make it better. He might stay now and still leave a week later. Go ahead and let him. If he loves and misses you, he’ll let you know and offer to work things out. For now, it’s the best option.



12. A LITTLE LONELINESS ISN’T WORTH LOSING YOUR SELF-RESPECT OVER.

No one likes feeling lonely, but that loneliness can actually be a good thing. You get time to learn more about yourself and still keep your self-respect. That’s definitely something you don’t get to keep when you start begging. Loneliness is always better than begging.